A regular relationship checkup is essential for a healthy relationship with your spouse.

In life, we go to see a dentist regularly twice a year to keep our teeth healthy. We get an annual medical checkup to stay on top of our physical health. But when was the last time you had a relationship checkup to protect the most important treasure in your life?

Just like with medicine, when it comes to relationships, preventive care is better than reactive care.

If you HAVE to see a relationship counselor, you are starting late. You will spend countless hours, resources, and money trying to repair damages from years of neglect. It is much better to spend time and energy to BUILD a relationship than repair a relationship. 

There are at least 5 benefits of a regular relationship checkup (BUILD):


One main complaint among couples is that they no longer feel they are a priority to their spouse. Life (work, parenting, church, etc.) gets so busy that they feel neglected. A regular relationship checkup brings balance back to your life by restoring your marriage as the top priority. 


Do you feel understood by your spouse? There was a time when you knew and understood each other intimately. A regular relationship checkup improves your ability to both understand and be understood by your loved one.


“Our souls crave intimacy” – Erwin McManus. When was the last time you felt intimately known by your spouse? A regular relationship checkup reignites emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual intimacy in your marriage.


“I love you but I am not IN love with you.” Does that describe how you feel about your spouse? A regular relationship checkup helps to deepen your love for each other.


While conflicts/differences with your spouse are normal, too many unresolved conflicts are like cancer to your relationship. A regular relationship checkup will eliminate the cancer by helping you to resolve the conflicts in a healthy way.

So, what are the elements of a relationship checkup? The answer will be posted on our next blog. Stay tuned!

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